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As the titled mentioned, is there anything that we should do to avoid undesirable life consequences?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I truly wish I'd known this when I was 21. Got married super young and went through 20 years (4 years of dating, 16 of marriage) of hell. I had so many reservations that I refused to admit to myself, let alone others, because I didn't believe i was worth loving, that I'd never find love again, etc.

My family actually celebrated when I left my ex. They'd apparently seen it the whole time.

Seriously, young people. Trust your gut.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I stayed with a woman for about five years after my gut knew.

One of the things that helped me start realizing I had to get out and make my own life was this line from a psychology course I listened to on youtube, talking about intuition:

If you ignore that thing that’s calling you forth, you will pay for it like you cannot possibly imagine.