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as another middle-aged person who’s been dealing with a lot of the issues both you and OP mentioned - do you have any tips for task paralysis? that’s the one that has had the biggest impact on me (as a former workaholic in particular)
If you're not always on medication, like me, I try to actively do a few things:
I generally have problems with going to bed on time (it's still 2:30am, but I'm working on it...), and I realised that I could go to bed more immediately if I brushed my teeth when I took my shower so I wouldn't get into task paralysis doomscrolling on my bed and either staying up way too late or falling asleep with bad oral hygiene.
Other things is like putting out the laundry basket in the middle of your path the night before so it's easier to grab it and bring it over to the washing machine the next morning. I use Google assistant to set a timer now so I'm more likely to remember to hang the clothes out to dry. It's not perfect, but I've at least had to rewash my clothes less due to me forgetting.
There's still that agony of "oh god I have to do a thing", but on days you really need to get small (but seemingly insurmountable) tasks done, I make a list of all the tasks I need to do, write a number next to the task in the order I have to do it, and then note down roughly how long it takes to do something.
Then, I set the timer, and set it to count down. It provides just a little additional push to start doing things, even if it's an absolute slog.
P.S. could you tell me more about how your task paralysis and workaholism would impact you? That seems quite interesting
What kind of tasks are you having issues with? For myself getting a proper diagnosis and therapist helped especiallywith the little things. It was getting medicated that helped a lot with larger tasks. I remember the first day I started on it, I had just stepped outside to get a package and saw a part of my yard full of weeds that had bothered me for about 2 months. I set down the package and pulled the weeds and continued on my day. There was no more fighting my own brain to get tasks done.