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I've always hated interviews, especially as you say, when I want the job I can barely do the interview and when I don't really care, it goes almost smooth as butter. Which is the opposite of what everyone tells you to do, kinda.
I've also realized I've probably misunderstood some questions, you know the classic "Where do you see yourself in x years?" previously I would always talk about getting a house and dogs and a nice garden... That is not what they meant but I never dared to ask.
I like to think that "misunderstanding" questions means they did not ask a clear questing and so any fault would fall on them, not me.
The example you gave is also a horrible question. Where do most people want to be in 10 years? Probably financially independent pursuing personal passions without managerial oversight. It's as annoying a question to me as "Why do you want to work here?" The same reason anybody wants any job, because I have bills I need to pay. They should be telling me why I should want to work for them. Both of those questions are red flags for me. Maybe the person is just not good at interviewing, or maybe it's a toxic work environment that doesn't value their employees. An interview should be trying to sell the company is me as much as I am trying to sell myself to the company. But maybe that is just me.
The fault may fall on them but it becomes my problem as I miss a job opportunity.
I'm definitely going to ask for clarification on what they mean when asking so broad questions.
It's weird when an employee runs the interview as if this was a persons dream job. I don't think many companies have that luxury.