Edit - This is a post to the meta group of Blåhaj Lemmy. It is not intended for the entire lemmyverse. If you are not on Blåhaj Lemmy and plan on dropping in to offer your opinion on how we are doing things in a way you don't agree with, your post will be removed.
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A user on our instance reported a post on lemmynsfw as CSAM. Upon seeing the post, I looked at the community it was part of, and immediately purged all traces of that community from our instance.
I approached the admins of lemmynsfw and they assured me that the models with content in the community were all verified as being over 18. The fact that the community is explicitly focused on making the models appear as if they're not 18 was fine with them. The fact that both myself and one a member of this instance assumed it was CSAM, was fine with them. I was in fact told that I was body shaming.
I'm sorry for the lack of warning, but a community skirting the line trying to look like CSAM isn't a line I'm willing to walk. I have defederated lemmynsfw and won't be reinstating it whilst that community is active.
But why does that matter? The result is a few pedophiles looking at legal material. You could put a positive spin on it as well and say rather they put their urges on this legal content, than move on to something more extreme.
And there is honestly some amount of bodyshaming here as well. Is it akin to pedophilia to find super petite women attractive? Is anyone who sexually desires and of age petite woman a creep?
To be clear, I'm not arguing about the defederation! That is the admin's perogative, I'm trying to have a civil conversation about these ideas.