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The original poster in the screenshot is "confessions of a diabetic," and based on her avatar I'm taking an educated guess that her illness is not lifestyle-caused. That's what makes your comment tone-deaf: a person with an incurable disease makes a statement, that other people with incurable diseases resonated with, and you start going off about lifestyle changes like it's contributing to the conversation and not just making chronically ill people feel bad. Why bad? Because it's a) a reminder of all the times they tried in vain to fix their condition with lifestyle changes, b) overlooks that most chronically ill people do actively engage in (often extreme) lifestyle adjustments to help manage symptoms, and c) reinforces the idea that if chronically ill people just tried harder they could be cured).
Putting "a lot" in front of your statement doesn't negate that it's out of context, and thus insensitive and not contributing to the discussion. It's a case of "you're not a member of the group of people that are commiserating here, so maybe this conversation isn't for you to participate in."
You have created an avatar that doesn't exist and certainly is not me.
Perhaps you should listen to the OC and not your straw men.
Dunno what else to say, but you're wasting energy. Aim it toward the actual thing you're against and not me :)
Here's a hint: I agree with you. But I was never talking about what you are. You went there. And sorry, I was never there and won't follow. You'll have to try find someone else to fight if that's all you're here for.