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I discovered a girl on a dating app. I sent her a message request on instagram. Yesterday i commented on one of her posts and she blocked me. I was (still am) slightly grieving. In last night's dream, (lemmy.ca)

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i had a bunch of experiences about her. One of them is i discovered that she's the actor of one of the avengers characters. She's a theater kid in real life.

Somewhat related tip: don't do instagram message requests, since they don't cause a notification

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[–] notaviking 6 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah you are putting way too much expectations when meeting new girls. Have you ever heard of once you are in a relationship suddenly everyone is interested in you, well the reason is you are basically interacting with people without having expectations or seeming desperate. Find your passions, a relationship will find people who are happy with themselves and willing to let a potential relationship go if they feel it will not work out and do not force it to work out.

Usually that is the nice thing about finding a passion, not an addiction (this can take various forms), it removes the need for a relationship to make oneself happy, gets you out of that headspace, improves yourself and shows in a partner that you have more going on. Also it will help with love bombing and suffocating the other person.

But life is a journey, an adventure and no one is getting out of this unscathed. Don't be scared of rejection, it is healthy and seeing your reaction will motivate you to improve on yourself and be more confident with the next love interest

[–] [email protected] 1 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

Yeah you are putting way too much expectations when meeting new girls.

What expectations?

Have you ever heard of once you are in a relationship suddenly everyone is interested in you, well the reason is you are basically interacting with people without having expectations or seeming desperate. Find your passions, a relationship will find people who are happy with themselves and willing to let a potential relationship go if they feel it will not work out and do not force it to work out.

I'm not sure how this isn't off topic. My best guess is you assumed that I acted beyond what's necessary to make the other person know that I exist (edit: and that i have interest at all). The dating app doesn't provide a reliable way to do that without getting a very expensive subscription. The only reason for 2 interactions on instagram instead of 1 is I later found out that message requests don't cause a notification.

Usually that is the nice thing about finding a passion, not an addiction (this can take various forms), it removes the need for a relationship to make oneself happy, gets you out of that headspace, improves yourself and shows in a partner that you have more going on. Also it will help with love bombing and suffocating the other person.

Based. I have had this mindset for a while. It works well.