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[–] Zorque 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Indeed, being attracted to certain aesthetic features isn't a bad thing. But seeking out someone to fulfill that fantasy, irrespective of any other factor, is.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago (1 children)

People are too quick to assume they are being singled-out "irrespective of any other factor" though. We're all so convinced no-one could like us for who we really are.

I mean, if I'm being honest, no-one should like me for who I really am, but that hasn't stopped plenty of people. You get the idea.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Are people to quick to assume that? Where are you getting that information from? Are you assuming it?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 19 hours ago

Honestly, its a trope and a pretty common issue, as well as something I struggled with when I was young.

If you look at incels, its the reverse: a whole bunch of people convinced they lack something specific which others are singled out for to attract a lover, regardless of personality or character. They convince themselves they have nothing to offer but their "entitlement to sex", to the point they eventually become right about the nothing to offer part.