cross-posted from: https://lemmy.zip/post/32492690
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Dragon Rider (drag) being banned from the following communities for sharing DMs:
this post was submitted on 21 Feb 2025
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But, hypothetically, if a trans woman were to call herself that, would you then misgender her?
Not referring to someone by their sexual appetites is not misgendering, period. Sexual attraction and gender are two separate things, I'm not sure when this became controversial. The very premise of your question is invalid.
That implies that you have absolute, undeniable proof of drag's "sexual appetites", and in extension that calling drag by drag's preferred pronouns is somehow playing into their sexual fantasies, otherwise your appeal to consent doesn't really matter. Do you have such proof?
I do! The profile explains it! Unless it has been changed, the profile explicitly states this. Drangonfucker is a version of dragon rider, one who has sex with dragons and that's why the pronoun drag is chosen. All according to the profile!
Is that enough proof? Claiming that simply using someone's pronouns is playing into their sexual fantasies and they somehow get a kick out of that is, in my opinion, pretty far fetched. It's also entirely possible "drag" is chosen simply because it's a shortened version of "dragonrider" or "dragonfucker", rather than drag being a "sex pest" and "predator". I feel like a community full of diverse folk and minorities will have the experience needed to identify such a person when they become a problem and remove them. Drag is not that.
I also feel like it's not far away from a transphobe claiming they "don't consent" to respecting trans people because "they don't want men in woman's spaces" and "it's just a kink".
It is clearly the intent, but you are determined to not accept it, and that's fine. I don't engage with the individual, but when people try to state that having an issue with it is bigoted, I feel the need to speak up. This is boundary pushing behavior, and it will not get better by defending it.
Boundary pushing in what way?