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What do I want for my birthday? (lemmy.ca)

submitted 5 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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It's that time of year again when my partner gets upset with me because I'm not the kind of person that ever wants anything...

My partner always wants this or that. They mention things they want all the time. So I write down what I hear. Gift holidays are covered easily because I try to pay attention.

I feel bad though. I know it's hard when I don't talk about things I want. And when asked, I don't know what to say. It only ends up causing me anxiety.

This is so dumb. What does a person who doesn't want things want for their birthday?

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[–] WarlordSdocy 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I have the same problem when I need to come up with things on the spot. So instead I keep a list that I add ideas I get for things I want over time. That way if someone asks I can show them that and I don't have to think on the spot about what I want.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

This is literally what I do for other people. Not sure why I've never thought of this for myself. I mean, I have to want things now and again, right? I usually don't get those things because I ultimately don't really care and there are more important things I need to spend money on. Budget only seems to get more tight over time.

Anyway, it will be tough to remember to do this, but I just have to remember I'm doing it for them and not me. I will be more likely to actually notate things then. This can work moving forward. Thanks!

[–] WarlordSdocy 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Yeah I definitely still have problems with remembering to do it, especially if I get an idea when I'm not at a place where it's easy to note the idea down. But even having a few things on there can be enough and sometimes help with jogging my memory about other things I wanted when it comes closer to an event.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

Well, this morning I was able to get a few things down and then a few more things after that. I told my partner that I have a list for me and they got super excited.

I honestly don't care if I ever get around to getting most of these things, but for the sake of other people doing something like this is a big deal and I love seeing their excitement.

Plus, my youngest kid said they can't wait to get me another stuffed animal. I'm seriously hoping they can be steered towards something else that I don't have to put on my bed to make the poor kid happy. Lol.