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[–] A_Very_Big_Fan 27 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

God, if only it were that easy. I had this issue with a FWB, and we went through a few distinct phases...

The first was just reassuring her I didn't mind. Listening and responding is easy enough for me, but I'm a quiet person, so it's a great thing for me to have both someone that has a job/life that gives her a lot to talk about every day, and someone that has the social battery to talk about it. When the apologies persisted, I tried being more and more precise and long-winded in my explanation...to no avail.

Which did get exhausting, admittedly. So the third phase was scaling it back. "Like I always say, I like listening to you and don't mind at all". Which I guess was my way of politely saying "I'm running out of ways to say this."

The fourth "phase" was her putting it more...bluntly I guess. "Sorry, I know I'm annoying you so I'll see if I can shut up for just two minutes." Which was frustrating for me, because I've already done everything I could think to do to reassure her, but she doubled down and that made me feel like there was truly nothing I could do to get through to her.

That's all I had to say I guess. Thanks for coming to my ted talk.

[–] Mrkawfee 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

What's FWB?

[–] KammicRelief 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

friend with benefits

[–] surewhynotlem 3 points 3 days ago

Fuckin with buddies

[–] Tyfud 2 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Sometimes you're the only adult in a relationship. And it sucks.

[–] Shapillon 15 points 3 days ago

And sometimes people are held back by traumatic experiences that meld into deeply held beliefs.

I'm the kind of person OP is talking about. I know it's hard for the folks around me that I love dearly. I try to change it, find ways to reassure myself constantly, etc... It's an incredibly frustrating, lifelong battle.

[–] A_Very_Big_Fan 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Tbh neither of us were being the adult lol. We both had a hand in keeping that relationship a FWB relationship.

But hey, live and learn. We're both still friends and talk most days of the week, so I'd say the whole thing was a net positive.

[–] passiveaggressivesonar 1 points 3 days ago

Elaborate? I might be in the same boat