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"Men don't say 'breast'" (self.ftm)

submitted 22 hours ago by JayJLeas to c/[email protected]

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My gender therapist told me this in response to something I said referencing my chest. It was a while ago but it's stuck with me. I'm wondering what you all think of this comment? The comment felt disqualifying, like I was less male for calling my chest a "breast", or I would be seen as less male because of it, but I can be pretty sensitive so I might be overthinking and she might be right that men don't talk like that.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 18 hours ago

I think the best course of action here is to just tell the therapist that what she said felt invalidating to you, and ask why she said it. How she reacts will be a good indicator on whether it was intentional and whether she is a good fit for you.

She may have been trying to give you (seemingly unasked for, based on your post) passing advice without endorsing the sentiment behind it, and just came off badly. If you don’t want her input on what she thinks would make you pass better, you can absolutely tell her that. You get to set boundaries with the therapist, too.