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[–] [email protected] -4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

"You're pretty and smart and drag likes the way you see the world and you have a big heart."

Y'all don't know how to compliment your dragons properly. Tell it that it's pretty and smart and kind. Easy.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's what I would personally call "cheap".

Among those words the only one that could barely resonate would be "I like the way you see the world", but that's still pretty reductive as I doubt your partner at the time is doing groundbreaking philosophy.

And it doesn't say much about your feeling toward anybody else that share the same outlooks/lifestyle.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

That's cheap? What would you consider deep, then? Binding your soul to your partner's in an ancient ritual?

[–] Gradually_Adjusting 2 points 14 hours ago

Depth here just means thinking more about their inner life and choosing a compliment based on your intimate knowledge about how they feel. That kind of compliment demonstrates the connection in a way that feels profound, rather than mere flattery.

About fifteen years ago I told my partner, rather artlessly I thought, that I love them not in spite of their flaws but because of them, too. It wasn't what you'd call genius material but the words were intended to quell a deep fear of conditional love, and they still haven't forgotten the compliment. Despite not being anywhere near poetry or a grand gesture, the fact that I realized this could not be left implicit was an important moment in our relationship.

Not a perfect example, but it's the best I've got.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

A combination of "I don't know I just do" and "Probably because of my experiences as a child".

[–] [email protected] 0 points 14 hours ago

Huh. So knowing your own desires makes relationships shallow in most people's eyes?

Drag sure is glad not to be normal