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Exactly what I said. No need to add the layer of misogyny.
She said she plays along and tries to get him to let her go for sexual favors, did you ignore that part?
"Hey honey, how did you like the new stuff you asked me to do?" Simple as that.
No, you said:
To which I said:
The guy is communicating. He was asked to give a performance of a character, and he has done so with multiple characters.
The gal has not said she's actually given any specific feedback on this performance to the guy, so we would have to invent that into the story for her communication to be anything beyond 'hey roleplay as a cop and a spy'.
No clue how you're interpreting this as me being misogynistic, I'd have exactly the same position and words if the sex/genders were reversed or this was a man+man or woman+woman relationship or anything else.
No I didn't. Did you miss the part where she says her conception of a two person roleplay is one person does the major part of inventing a character and acting them out, and she just responds to that, instead of inventing her own character?
She could be playing an actual role, far outside of her normal character, say a burglar caught in the act, or a double agent under surveillance trying to make a deaddrop... but nope, she's just doing the bare minimum in terms of acting out a creative character, just reacting.
Or she could use all these words she's written here on the internet and direct them toward the person who gave a performance she asked for and is unsatisfied with.
Why is the onus on only one person to both act and intuit criticism from said acting, when the gal never actually says she's told the guy he is doing anything wrong?
"Hey honey, can we tone this down to the level of a cheesy 90s porn parody and not be so intense?" Simple as that.
Never said OOP didn't hold some of the blame for not communicating. It's a two way street though. You seem to be under the impression this is 100% her fault. I don't disagree she should be talking to her partner instead of asking online, but to think the guy hasn't done anything wrong by not asking how their new bedroom activity went is wrong as well. Both of their ideas of roleplay are correct, but it's not about who's right and wrong, it's about working together to make the experience enjoyable. I haven't seen evidence either party has done that.