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Why is no one helping you and just let you suffer? Why are humans so unfair and cruel? (self.mentalhealth)

submitted 5 days ago by Lost_Soul to c/mentalhealth

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I'm a 21 year old guy and struggle with depression for my whole life because of traumatic things I experienced from my parents.

About 2 years ago I completely lost all my spirit and willingness in life. I fell into this dark hole where I'm not able to do anything on my own anymore and had to move back to my parents since I wasn't able to live on my own anymore.

Since then I spent the full 2 years completely alone in my room every single day and haven't been outside or met anyone since. I only get outside maybe once a month to buy groceries but except from that I don't see the world anymore, have no activities to do and live with pure hopelessness, no money and very little food.

Even though my family knows all that and I'm crying out for help, no one is helping me. I've lived in many facilities before, went to therapy and have a psychiatrist but all they do is talk but that's it. I tried my very best but realized that I'm just not capable to live on my own.

And then all my parents do (especially my father) is treating me the same way like when I was a kid that caused my depression in the first place by letting out their dissatisfaction/frustration with themselves on me and baselessly blaming/criticizing me for every little thing. And all that is just making it so much worse and harder for me to get out of the situation.

They let me suffer in hell until I go insane or die.

I don't understand why this world is so cruel. It feels like no one cares about people who suffer.

I don't get that. If I was better off and knew someone in such a situation I would do everything to help them and give them what they need. Why is no one helping and just let you suffer like that?

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[–] Lost_Soul 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Damn you're so lucky to have something to go to and especially lucky for having friends and people who care about you. I wish I had that right now. I literally don't see anyone and spent 24 hours inside one single room for 2 years. The fact that I have no one who cares about me just deeply discourages me.

And the fact that I'm living with my parents again deeply discourages me further to do anything but I can't get out here because of the strong burden that makes me incapable of living independently.

I lost the hope that eventually something will improve since I had that for years and nothing changed. I already know that I will still be stuck in this room for the next 5 years unless I'm going insane or die til before that. What a waste of valuable life time😮‍💨

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

When was the last time you spoke to an old high school friend? Or even a neighbor? Maybe converse with the people in line with you next time you are at the store. Little steps add up. The friends I have now were old college roommates with me before I dropped out. A few years after moving out of that apartment I had a therapist challenge me to reach out to someone I knew. I did that and talked about how I was reaching out to people having a standing weekly get together with and they responded well to that idea. In the years since then they have had three kids and they all call me uncle.

[–] Lost_Soul 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

I don't wanna talk to anyone while I'm living with my parents and am in this miserable situation.

But even if I would ever get out of here I don't have anyone to talk to. I went to like 5 different high schools since they put me into facilities at different locations in my teens.

Before I got taken away from home I had so many friends as a kid and literally met friends every single day. But over the years I lost contact to every single one of them and haven't talked to them in many years.

I'm generally not a guy who keeps friends for their lifetime. It was never that deep. When I went to a new school I had these friends for a few months and then never talked to them again.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Why do you have to wait until you aren't living with your parents?

[–] Lost_Soul 2 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (2 children)

It's blocking me. It's like I'm not worthy enough when I still live here. And living here makes me feel so uncomfortable I wouldn't be able to talk to someone. I'm even afraid to leave my room because I could encounter my dad.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 days ago

Those thoughts aren't true but I understand having mental blocks.