Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
- Please follow the rules of the lemmy.blahaj.zone instance.
- Bigotry of any kind will not be tolerated.
- Gatekeeping will not be tolerated.
- Please be kind and respectful to all.
- Please tag NSFW topics.
- No NSFW image posts.
- Please provide content warnings where appropriate.
- Please do not repost bigoted content here.
This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
To make such a request, at the start of the body of your post, not in the title, the first line should look like the this: [Requesting Engagement from _________]
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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We will get back to this more fully soon. However, we appreciate you actully engaging with us about the negative stuff. We find much of the time the rest of the trans community doesn't want to engage with this kind of stuff and a lot of the time it feels like they're saying "shut up, we only want positivity."
It helps to work through this stuff where we're not being told to shut up, condescended to, demeaned or being told to be happy with what we have or might get which is what happens all too often for some reason.
I was worried you might feel I was somehow dismissing your needs, so hopefully my response did not feel dismissive. I was just hoping to show that how even if those are your needs, that satisficing might still make sense here. It probably helps that I have some similar feelings as you, it is painful to me that I will never be a cis woman. For years I dismissed the possibility of transition because I could never be a cis woman, but I still affirm my transition - life is better for it.
I hope not to be demeaning, condescending, etc. but I admit I can sometimes mess up or not see how something I say comes across - hopefully you will grant me grace in those moments if they do occur. Also, I am sorry that you feel alienated this way in the community, but it is my experience that the trans community is filled with negative emotions and especially accounts of dysphoria as you just gave. At the very least, you are hardly alone in your "negativity". :-)