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I've been admittedly struggling with my identity as a whole, especially as I approach my 1 year mark on Estrogen. So far it's the right call for me, but I've discovered that I'm becoming more comfortable with my masculine traits and even find myself binding my breasts that I've waited so many years to have, while the next day I'll do the complete opposite and present femininely.

I feel like I have no consistent sense of self and often have a hard time even knowing what's going on in my head haha

Constantly trying to figure out if I'm a boy, girl, both, or neither, because I admittedly struggle with my body in various fronts. One day I'm too feminine, the next I look too much like a man, or I'm not androgynous enough.

Frankly, it's exhausting. I used to think I was just a woman but it doesn't seem to fit as I continue hrt.

It feels odd to express all of this but, I've not really talked to many trans people as I'm chronically shy. Is there anyone who can relate to what I'm going through?

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The reason I see a lot of pressure, more often than not from the outside of the LGBTQ+ or Trans community, to fit into certain categories is bec I find cis people often have certain pictures or expectations of how or what a trans person should be; basically I find the reason there’s this pressure is bec cis people are often trying to create boxes to understand being trans in their terms and not trying to understand it from a trans perspective.
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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Keep in mind this is me pulling from my experience, I live in Tennessee currently, so people aren't great about LGBTQ+ issues most of the time.