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Resources:

Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.

Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en

StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/

Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/

[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map

[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination

[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/

[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/

[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/

[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org

*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on

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A friend asked me "Should I treat you like a boy or a girl?" (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 5 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I was perplexed by the question. What's the difference? They explained: "Should I tiptoe and watch my manners around you or be blunt? Flirtatious or chill? Brag about my sexual conquests or talk about our feelings? When you're sad, do I hug you and buy you ice cream or do we go grab some beers? Should I wonder if we'll ever hook up?"

I'm not sure if I'm more appalled or confused by this mindset. I thought everyone treated their friends the same regardless of their gender identity. Is this just a fringe case of toxic masculinity, or is this really how the average cis person sees the world?

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Are people wearing masks over their personality when interacting with people of differing genders?

Yes, the word person/persona literally means 'mask'. Wearing different "masks" is a common human behaviour.

Do you know about racialization? Gender works in a similar way. Children are taught since early age that they need to follow different "rulesets" when interacting with boys and girls.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

That's really interesting, I didn't know that. On deeper thought, I do act differently in the workplace than I do in a dive bar or in a museum. But I'm getting hung up on treating people differently based on their gender. It would be strange to me to speak to a female-presenting colleague differently than a male-presenting one.

[–] angrystego 6 points 5 days ago

Some people prefere to be treated differently. And some don't. People in my bubble treat each other mostly equaly (except for the flirting bit I guess), but I know women that hate men swearing in their presence and men who feel awkward if you tell them about your feelings too much. I suppose you can choose from each of his question the option that suits you, no matter the gender stereotype it's associated with.