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Similar. I have both. However, not all autism is the same.
As for the social stuff, your skills are underdeveloped. It's like watching a toddler run because there are skills others developed at a much younger age. You may always struggle with it, but you can learn how to cope, and you can improve.
You can learn to watch for non verbal cues, learn when to listen vs talk. You can learn when to stop fact dumping and instead ask questions.
You aren't alone. It can get better. I would recommend watching some YouTube videos on communication and social skills.
Be interested in other people's journeys and skill sets. Perhaps people will think you're different, but they will like you.
Settle on an organization that objectively makes sense for you. Don't set unreasonable expectations for yourself.
I try to be a listener which seems to work pretty well. It is hard because of my ADHD but I try.
Slow talkers amirite!?
If they say they have a problem I will immediately try to fix it. I am a engineer by heart so I want to come up with solutions. The thing is most people don't want solutions they just want to vent.
Yes. This. Are they looking for understanding or solutioning?
Typically venting..
Ask. It saves you both frustration.