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Resources:

Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.

Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en

StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/

Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/

[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map

[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination

[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/

[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/

[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/

[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org

*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on

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A friend asked me "Should I treat you like a boy or a girl?" (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 5 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I was perplexed by the question. What's the difference? They explained: "Should I tiptoe and watch my manners around you or be blunt? Flirtatious or chill? Brag about my sexual conquests or talk about our feelings? When you're sad, do I hug you and buy you ice cream or do we go grab some beers? Should I wonder if we'll ever hook up?"

I'm not sure if I'm more appalled or confused by this mindset. I thought everyone treated their friends the same regardless of their gender identity. Is this just a fringe case of toxic masculinity, or is this really how the average cis person sees the world?

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 5 days ago (2 children)

There are differences regardless of whether there is romantic potential. I will talk about things with other men that I wouldn't with women for many reasons. Social relationships are complex and gender does play a role in interactions, even if people aren't consciously aware of them.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 5 days ago

yes, the way gender plays a role is often unconscious - this is an important point

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

This is a new concept to me. What sort of things do you talk about with one gender but not the other, and why?

[–] [email protected] 13 points 5 days ago

There are exceptions, of course, but generally I don't speak with women regarding my sexual health (or sex in general), most of my mental health, or things specific to men. For the most part, they wouldn't want to discuss these things with me either or wouldn't have the experience to relate to it.