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I’ve been on lemmy for over a year now, and I just realized I used to read all those HackerNews articles + their comments, I haven’t done that in probably 6 months because the discussion here has gotten much better. What’s changed for you with Lemmy over the last year?

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I got banned from the Canada community and according to the mod log, it was for homophobia and bigotry.

That really rubs me the wrong way because I’ve never ever posted anything like that. I’ve been the subject of homophobic and bigotry based bullying my whole life and the only comment I posted on that topic there was an account of my first hand experience of being catfished on Grindr and then outed as bi on the towns facebook page and subjected to ridicule and harassment.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

I believe you misunderstood why you were banned.

You were banned because of incivility and ableism. You were making derogatory comments about the mentally ill as though having a illness was a bad thing.

I can see why you were confused, as homophobia is also listed under rule 1.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I mean the nice thing about Lemmy is you can always create your own community, and if that's not enough, your own instance.

It removes a bad mods ability to completely dominate, because there's always an escape hatch for folks who are just done with their shit.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I mean the nice thing about Lemmy is you can always create your own community

You can do that on most platforms. It isn't worth the effort unless you can pull users into your new community. That's hard.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

You don't need any users to interact with other instances. A lot of people are in a instance of one person, themselves.

Are you still bound by the rules of individual instances, no matter if you agree with them or not? Yes.

If their rules upset you, consider blocking the entire instance/community.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

True, but when it’s a main community that pertains to your interests, it’s crappy to be banned from it for fictional reasons. Would be the same on any other social media site I guess. I find people here are more militant in their beliefs.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Yeah. Lemmy's biggest strength (decentralization) has also shown to be one of it's biggest flaws when micro-managing admins/mods turn their instance into their own personal fiefdom, inflicting their "justice" broadly and without discernment. I've been banned more here in under 2 years than on reddit for over 13, almost exclusively for voting "wrong" according to what feedback I can find, which is a a seriously treacherous practice in communities like these. I have no real sense of loss over it, but I do worry the Lemmy-verse will end up with tons of siloed off instances instead of an interconnected community if it goes on unadressed.