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How have you successfully gotten over a breakup? I did not end the relationship and it was the most significant of my life. I feel confused and trying to understand why. I'm not sleeping well and my anxiety has decided to resurface. I'm ruminating. I don't have many people to go to about this. Please don't say I will find someone else, because I can't go there right now. And I know it won't happen anyway.

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[โ€“] SpeedLimit55 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

It takes time, your favorite music, whiskey, friends, food, pot, exercise, tobacco, sunshine, sports, chili cheese fries, boat rides or whatever you like. Just do you for a while!

Edit: Do everything in moderation

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

With the caveat that many of these things should be done in moderation. Abusing drugs and alcohol will make things worse.

[โ€“] [email protected] -4 points 1 year ago

That is simply your opinion

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I would not recommend addictive and harmful habits like smoking tobacco/pot and drinking as a coping mechanism, it can go real bad and can make it harder to get out of that hole again.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

With the caveat that many of these things should be done in moderation. Abusing drugs and alcohol will make things worse.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago