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One year since I discovered my partner's infidelity (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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I was with a man for four years and thought we were going to get married. He was a widower and I fell in love for the first time. When I found out he was cheating, it killed me. I felt my whole self die.

I miss myself. I wake up every day and go through the motions, even try to date here and there, but at the end of the day I am a soulless husk of a person. I've tried focusing on myself - losing weight, exercising, rejuvenating old hobbies, lots and lots of therapy and meds. Nothing helps. At this point I'm only living because I have three pets who rely on me.

I still don't understand why I deserved that. I guess this is just as good as life gets for someone like me.

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[–] mvirts 5 points 4 days ago

Take a look back in time, maybe it wasn't actually as good as you think it was.

Don't blame the victim, you are not responsible for your partner's choices. There was nothing you could have done to change it and even if you could have it would have just postponed the heartbreak. Be glad you found out when you did.