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Yes, the anxiety, guilt, pressure that gets it done eventually in a panic frenzy, when the adrenaline kicks in. It was not a good life, though.
For my son, I don't want that, I want to be understanding that he might have a dopamine/noradrenaline imbalance that would make it disproportionately cruel to force him to clean his room right now. (He's getting checked, of course, but in the meantime got to take my best guess.)
But the result is that he does not get even priority tasks done, sometimes.
I'm sure I can find a different way for him, starting with getting him checked. Some methods also work for him. E. g.: Don't have to do it right now, but when it's 5 p.m. / the video is done / whatever, set a stopwatch and do 10 minutes of cleaning. Or, since he can't find where to start, do one thing: All garbage into a bag, or all toys into the box, or all dirty clothes into the wash.
Don't get your anxiety back, find a different way for yourself.