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[โ€“] kava 6 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

my tip is just to greet people loudly with a smile. say good morning, talk about weather, whatever

i've found that most people will do as you say. just try and look away and go about their day. some people can even look mean with a face that is not inviting at all.

but if you say hi in a friendly way one day, they look at you surprised a mutter something back.

the next time you see them, they have a smile on their face and they greet you more warmly.

really this is the thing about human connection. someone has to bridge that gap. and it's not hard to do

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 5 days ago

This is true. It's because people are generally on auto pilot and don't want to risk awkward conversations. But if you can make the initial contact a positive one, they will warm up quickly. Unless it's a girl and she thinks you are trying to hit on her, then she may starting to take another route.