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Are there any parents with ADHD children here? (need 2-3 mins of your time for a survey for a project) (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

submitted 1 month ago by [email protected] to c/adhd

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Hi, I am taking part in a research project and for that I need to conduct a very small survey. It is about the daily challenges faced by parents raising children who struggle with ADHD and aggressive behavior. My goal is to better understand the specific difficulties families encounter, so we can identify and develop more effective resources and support.

We are currently in the very early phase where we conduct this survey and later, me and my team will be working towards creating a technical solution (most likely an app) for emotional fitness and mental health for this.

Thanks in advance for taking the time in filling out the survey.

Here are the questions:

What are the most challenging moments or behaviors you encounter with your child on a typical day?
How does your child's ADHD and aggression impact their relationships with you, their siblings, friends, or classmates?
What strategies or methods have you tried to manage your child's aggressive behavior, and how effective have they been?
How does your child's condition affect your personal life, mental health, and/or relationships with others?
What resources, support systems, or information do you feel would help you most in managing your child's challenges?

Keep in mind that, it is obviously anonymous and you don't have to answer all the questions, just as much as you can answer. So no pressure!

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[–] polarpear11 1 points 2 weeks ago

I have two kids, one is 7, girl, and has pretty classic adhd (I have adhd too but the more internal kind that is common with girls and women). My other kid, 4, girl, I'm pretty positive does not have adhd but maybe time will tell. She's a pretty textbook toddler and I can see a very striking difference in the two, it's like raising a kid for the first time all over again.

The most challenging moments on a day to day basis is getting her out the door. She never can find her shoes, she gets distracted and is always spacey, takes like 7 minutes just to walk down the stairs. She wakes up sooo early and gets dressed by herself but the shoe thing makes us late a lot. I do my best but she's 7 so she is very particular about what shoes she wants to wear, and they're always missing.
My child does not have aggression, but rather emotional disregulation. When she gets upset she doesn't know what to do with herself and will express this is as extreme frustration and end up burying her head in a pillow. She is naturally a very kind and caring person, I've never seen her be aggressive towards someone else.
When she is having trouble managing emotions, we ask her to stop, breathe, think. We practice breathing techniques and she uses them on her own sometimes when she needs to.
There are two ways her adhd effects me personally. One is that is hard for me to watch her struggle because she going through the same things I did. Even though me and her dad are understanding, I know it can be a very isolating experience. Another way it effects me is her lack of spatial awareness drives me insane. She's constantly under my feet, too close to me, making me feel overwhelmed (I can't handle too much touching, it overstimulates me) I own my own business so I can't work when she's around, talking my ear off, hanging on me. I ask her to stop and she will, and then will come right back in 3 minutes, totally forgetting my earlier frustration.
The biggest thing that would help is more understanding from other people. My mom recently watched both of my girls and was like "omg you have GOT to get her medicated, she's so hyper and spaced out" but the way I see it, is that's her, it's who she is. I think medication would help her navigate school, but i want to do things that are good for her, not because it makes other people more comfortable. Her school is very accommodating, and her current teacher is understanding as she has adhd kids herself. Her teacher last year, however, was not. She's having a much better school year. Teaching her methods of cleaning, emotional regulation, and non-medication ways of making life easier is helpful. My husband and I are only going off of our own experiences though, as we're not professionals.