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It’s a chocolate cake with apricot jam apparently.
And a bit of self promotion is never unwarranted! These wee kinds of totally unexpected gifts are my absolute favourite. I loathe getting presents generally; and hate the kind of obligation folk feel on Xmas and birthdays, so when someone goes out their way to do something like this I just adore it. Even better when someone is getting shot Or something and thinks of you and keeps it aside! TIL what encaustic art is as well, so cheers for that!
I didn't know either until she messaged me asking if I wanted the kit! Guess I have a reputation for trying anything once (this is correct).
I'm the same as you with gifts usually, sick of telling people I don't need anything for my birthday. For Christmas in our house we've started just setting a hard and fast budget so at least I know I'm not about to be ambushed with something unnecessarily expensive 😅
My 40th coming up and my mother in law is doing my head in asking what I want. I've already said an Amazon voucher please, which I genuinely want because then if a book comes out I can get it on my Kindle. That is what I actually want. I don't really want anything, but because I have to say something, that is what I'm saying to get the present police off my case.
But she's insisting that she has to get me something 'proper' and I'm like what does that mean? And my wife says well some of your jumpers are looking a bit shabby (thanks wifey). And then suggestions start flying in like what about a nice print for the living room, or that beard oil stuff you use maybe? Because I like cooking, she asks if I've got enough pots and pans? Instead of an Amazon voucher what about avoucher to go somewhere like a spa?
At least I can trust my Mum just to get me a book, send me a birthday text and say no more about the matter 😂
Christ that's infuriating. My partner's dad gets the same thing for everyone every year, except the other women in the family get a Next voucher as part of theirs and I get an Amazon one to spend on board games and books. I actually look forward to it so much every year!
Maybe there's some way to get your enthusiasm for reading vs spas across to her. Emphasise how much longer that would last in terms of enjoyment, or something. There must be some way to get through to her!
I hope so, because a yearly injection of free books is an excellent gift.
I've really tried, but their side of the family takes birthdays seriously and has this thing about 'real' presents being... I don't actually know. I guess Spa vouchers count because it's an experience. But digital books are somehow a cop out. Or something. She's a bit stubborn and not my mum so it's a bit awkward to keep finding ways of saying 'i just want an Amazon voucher because that's what would really make me happy' without it coming across as me being the dick!
It's just a culture clash because my family don't really make a big deal out of birthdays at all and certainly don't have some weird caste system of presents lol
Ok new plan. Go for the spa voucher and sell it to someone you know, then spend the money on Kindle books.
Win/win lol.
Yeah, I'll be in touch 😂