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Anyone else feel oppressed by the Q-slur and feel that its widespread use harms LGBT rights more than it helps? It feels like every LGBT-adjacent “safe space” isn’t safe for those affected by the Q-sl (kbin.social)
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Anyone else feel oppressed by the Q-slur and feel that its widespread use harms LGBT rights more than it helps? It feels like every LGBT-adjacent “safe space” isn’t safe for those affected by the Q-slur, especially on Pride Month.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

@HaleyHalcyon

I never thought I fit in with LGBT because I'm pansexual but never felt "gay." Come from a generation of playing "smear the q-s." And teachers telling us that "there are two kinds of men, steers and q-s."

Due to this, I definitely see the your point. I was called this a lot as a kid, and it definitely hurt, but it was before I was out even to myself, and haven't been called that as an adult, so I don't have that perspective.

However, it wasn't until it started to be reclaimed that I came to terms with who I am and the people I am attracted to. Q just feels right for where I am on sexuality and gender if that makes sense. It is the only slot I feel like I belong.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I had a similar experience with it growing up and it also feels like the most complete label for me. There are other labels that work for me factually, but it's what seems to most fully encompass me.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I agree with you.

If OP doesn't like to be called Q, they should verbalize that to their friend group and the people they interact with. They should also make it known that it is just their preference, and they do not speak for anyone else. But to say that I shouldn't identify as Q because they are offended with the label... OP needs to get over themselves, go touch some grass, and stop trying to police the identities of others in an attempt to push marginalized people out of the larger community of marginalized.