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Compulsion to help others (self.adhd)

submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by 108 to c/adhd

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Does anyone else feel the need to help others? I feel almost compelled to help or chip in with any 2 cents that may help someone with something they asked even if I dont know anything about what they are talking about.

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[–] 108 15 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I feel genuinely awful when I cant help someone.

Or if I am walking some where and someone was asking for something or I see someone needs help I also start feeling heavy to where it is hard for me to move past someone.

I pass homeless people on the road while I’m in traffic and just feel terrible because I have nothing to offer them.

Or with my work if I can’t solve an issue it affects me greatly.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I feel the same, it genuinely hurts when I think I let other down (despite they might not feel so).

Compassion is good, but we should probably reserve it for people who are close to us.

For those people who you probably will never meet a second time, close your heart to it.