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The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
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Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
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The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
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How's your bottom surgery 1+ years later? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

submitted 1 month ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I see a lot of posts near the event but rarely see any updates in longer time frames.

Are you happy?

Have you had any issues since the surgery?

Can you orgasm?

Any unique hygiene issues?

What are some non-obvious post-surgery things that only become apparent when everything settles back into a routine?

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[–] [email protected] 45 points 1 month ago

I guess I can come in here with a long-term review at 11.5 years post-op.

Are you happy?

Definitely. Was one of the single greatest improvements in my quality of life.

Have you had any issues since the surgery?

Not really, everything is fine.

My only complaint is lack of depth, which makes finding toys that aren't painful, challenging. I was pretty average size, or maybe slightly below, I think, pre-op, and even after dilating for 2+ years post-op, my "dimensions" aren't what I'd like.

Can you orgasm?

Yes

Any unique hygiene issues?

What are some non-obvious post-surgery things that only become apparent when everything settles back into a routine?

My biggest piece of advice is to ease yourself into sexual encounters afterwards; don't rush things. Be kind to yourself and others and take it slow. It's a really big (and fun!) learning experience, with lots of room and time to experiment.