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[–] LustyArgonianMana 17 points 3 months ago (1 children)

More evidence men should have been given dolls as kids... brought to you by the same men who would flip out if you suggested giving dolls to boys

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I'm a woman who played with dolls growing up, but I don't understand what you mean. Why would that have helped?

[–] LustyArgonianMana 18 points 3 months ago (3 children)

I highly recommend Patricia Evans' books on Verbally Abusive Relationships, and Controlling People.

Basically, when kids get dolls, they understand that they are projecting their daily issues onto the dolls. They get to dress up the doll and put their worries on the doll and do all these things with the doll. When they do that with people, typically other younger kids, they are then taught that people aren't to be treated like dolls. People aren't an extension of our selves. Thus, women tend to be socialized to have better perspective taking skills, and if they need an outlet for this type of behavior, they can use dolls or the Sims etc as a healthy outlet.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

Ooh fascinating, thanks for explaining! I'll look in to her writing.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Interesting, gonna add to the list of things I should read

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

It's not the same but boys of my generation did play with superhero / military dolls, and some of the play scenarios could get quite elaborate.

But I suppose the dolls didn't represent regular everyday people, so there was less playing with domestic or relatable scenarios.