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If you like romance in fiction, how do you like it? Realistic or Idealistic? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 4 months ago by NONE_dc to c/[email protected]

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While I was documenting myself to create a romantic work between two women, I made a little detour and read a Manga (Love Hurts, by Kiriko Nananan) that made me wonder if the idea I initially had for my story is too idealistic to the point of bordering on childish. It's just that the manga portrays interpersonal relationships in such a raw way (compared to what I've been consuming until then), that perhaps the impact it gave me was even greater than I expected.

I understand that there are those who prefer an escapist work, experiencing more of a dream than a one-on-one copy of real life. I also know that there are those who don't see much value in escapism and prefer art to function as a mirror of reality. I personally found myself somewhere in between.

What I would like to know is which side I should lean more towards in order to do the best work possible.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Short answer: Realistic

Long Answer: I think there’s a time and place for both. Idealistic can be very fun and comfortable to fall back on. However, like your typical “Jack Smith, highly-trained and deadly secret government agent” protagonist, there’s way too much idealistic romance in pop culture to the point that I believe it skews how many people expect relationships to work. That’s commonly unhealthy and occasionally dangerous, so I think we need more popular depictions of realistic romance, and by romance I mean all kinds of relationships. ESPECIALLY close, tight-knit non-sexual friendships between men and women.

[–] NONE_dc 5 points 4 months ago

There's way too much idealistic romance in pop culture to the point that I believe it skews how many people expect relationships to work.

I can't agree more to this.

I think we need more popular depictions of realistic romance [...] ESPECIALLY close, tight-knit non-sexual friendships between men and women.

Totally on board with that. I'll keep it in mind more seriously.