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I’m not sure if an affair directly implies cheating.
There are many ways to coexist with a partner or partners, and many ways to cheat or otherwise lie/conceal stuff.
Neither as a premise include an affair, but both certainly can.
I disagree, I believe that when people use the term affair they're explicitly referring to something non consensual which would mean cheating. I've never heard it used to imply anything related to any form of ethical non monogamy. (But I may be wrong.)
The way I understand the word, it’s more of a “fling”, or a short-term relation, as opposed to something long-lasting or structured. Which, for example, can be fully okay and include no shadiness if it’s communicated with the partner or partners.
I guess words change meaning over time, and since the default has been monogamy for so long, the word is still stigmatized and associated with cheating since it means something short?
As an example, single people can often be heard to have had vacation affairs, which wouldn’t imply cheating since they are single. But the word is used in that context too.
Emotional cheaters are still cheaters. All fucking cheaters can be taken straight to the fucking trash. I don't care how they do it. I don't care when or what time or age or whatever blah, blah, blah - I just strongly hold the stance fuck cheaters. I'm not talking about a stroll in the park, or a business plan. I am talking about people who are snakes who intentionally and selfishly walk past a series of boundaries and filters because they've got their heads in their asses.