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Genuine question - do people seriously have dates in restaurants? I'm 32 and never have I ever been asked on a date in a restaurant. Cafe, sure. But a full on meal with a person? I literally don't know anyone who went on a first/early date in a restaurant. I assumed that's a 90s thing that was nowadays only taking place in movies and sitcoms.
I did. Restaurants, movies, parks… I don’t recommend movies. We met, got to the theatre, watched the movie, but we didn’t actually talk, because, well, movie. How do you call that big sidewalk alongside a beach? That was awesome. Long walk just talking and listening.
Esplanade?
And yeah I agree just a long walk'n'talk where you don't have to constantly look at the other person is kind of the best to get to know someone.
And ffs movies... I had one first date at the movies and this was really awful. Especially since afterwards we drove home (not together). Like, what was that even?
The only way it works is if you go have drinks afterwards and heatedly discuss the movie. But for this you have to meet a cinemaholic and the movie has to have been at least not neutral. Maybe still better on a second or third date than first.
Maybe I've never been to a restaurant because I effectively stopped dating at 24 and before that I just wasn't in the age group that could afford restaurants?
I’m your age and I’ve done it several times, including with my husband.
The caveat is that you start with coffee or a drink (my husband and I arranged to play mtg and have a beer), then the conversation is so nice that you order food or move from a cafe to a restaurant.
Now that I think about it, all the good relationships I’ve been in that weren’t with friends of mine involved dinner tacked onto the first date. When I’ve dated friends, it’s a very different progression, but doesn’t really involve restaurant dates at the beginning.