this post was submitted on 21 Jun 2024
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I wonder if part of it is because more parents are parents because they chose to be. There are a lot of stories from older people where they became adults because they became parents, creating a lot of resentment.
I spend more time with my kids because I don't want them to live what I went through and it's probably the same for many men.
You are probably right that today, people ask themselves if they want kids, and why or why not. While our parents had more pressure to follow that life style, and our grand-parents had a priest coming to their home to tell them it was time to make another baby.
And that was likely a huge mistake!
Is this true? Purely anecdotal, but none of the people I know in my age range had children on purpose. Most of them were an "Oops, guess we should get married then..." and THANKFULLY most of those are good parents and their marriages seem to be working out.
Not that this is a bad thing when it works out anyway.
Anecdotally, my friend groups and family were the opposite. I even know some friends has abortions because they weren't in the right place to have a child.
But if you look at the statistics, parents are having their first child later in life. There are also a lot more childless adults.