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Men, are you physically affectionate with other male friends? (eg, hugging, snuggling, playful wrestling, etc). If you aren't, do you wish it was more socially acceptable if it isn't in your culture? (pawb.social)

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

In my culture, it is almost weird for men to have feelings. Everybody knows that men aren't emotionless machines, but they sometimes forget that. So you can guess that hugging a man as a man is somewhat weird. Before COVID, it was common to give handshakes; after that, pretty much every interaction stopped. Yes, I would really wish that it became more socially accepted. Because I think, When everybody interacts on a physical level, people will be less tense and more relaxed.

Edit: Well I need to correct myself, I think it is not really a social problem, but it rather is a me problem. I'm not very comfortable with touching somebody so it could be that I've been ignoring those interactions for years.

[–] noughtnaut 2 points 4 months ago

"Men must be stoic no matter what!"

"Men are such insensitive dolts!"

"All men are part of the patriarchy!"

...yeah, we're not making it easy for men to show affection, are we?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

This thread has been really interesting, and a couple comments seem to really hit the nail on the head in terms of social isolation and the fallout it can cause. I think the pandemic definitely played a part in that.

However, this thread also gives me a lot of hope. The comments and experiences are far more diverse than I thought they'd be :)