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I am 51, bi, and to this day I am not comfortable discussing my sexuality. I don't think young people understand how different things are now when compared to just fifteen years ago.
So you remember when the worst insult you could call a man was "F@g." I do. Not idiot, or moron, or dumbass. "F@g."
That's still burned into my brain. I don't say it, but when I'm angry, it's right there on the tip of my tongue.
I am gay. I have a gay friend who uses that term in a "taking it back" sense.
I love my friend and respect him but it hurts so bad it's to hear that. It's honestly triggering to me because it reminds me of middle and high school.
I wish he wouldn't use that term but maybe it is okay if we really are taking it back.
I have talked to some elder gays who seem to feel the same way about other terms like "lesbian" so maybe it really is a generational aversion to the slur of the time.
I don't like feeling genuinely upset but I am willing to endure it if it means progression for LGBTQIA+ ppl.
Anyone who has a thought about this pls reply. Would really love to hear non-straight folks opinions on it, but even willing to hear straight folks opinions as long as they are respectful and non-violent. ♥️
I feel like it's been taken back for a while already. A gay community in the states has a dance party they call "f@g bash" which made me wince the first time I heard it. But if anyone has a problem with it I haven't heard about it and it's been ongoing for several years.