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Help: With Underwear/Tucking (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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What I Have Tried Thus Far

I first tried just men's bikini briefs as they were comfortable with extra room before I wanted to start tucking... Then, especially once I got into leggings, I decided I both needed to tuck but also wanted to have cuter panties. So what options have I tried?

"Boy Shorts" (Honestly don't like these that much, they felt like they had too much material on the sides and back while not enough on the front)
Bikini Style (Women's) Panties(I Love these, they are comfy, and I can tuck with just them... for a couple of minutes, and then it is bulge time again. At least it is with me and the ones I have tried) Microfiber Cotton
Control Panties/Shapewear (The ones I have tried will keep everything thing smooth down there all day no problem, just wear regular panties underneath them. I will say, though, they are all fairly tall, and I have to readjust the waist throughout the day. Plus, they don't look that cute, and they can sometimes compress your butt a little bit.)
Tucking Gaff Thong (slim, typically wear underneath a cute bikini pantie to avoid having a "thong line" visible through leggings or skinny jeans. Downsides are it is sometimes a little harder to tuck without spillage, and it can be somewhat uncomfortable if it starts to ride or move throughout the day. Aside from that it is one of my favorites as unlike the control panties it can go under my cute panties, and they don't compress the butt like the control panties do to some degree and let's face it, if you are wearing leggings or skinny jeans your butt is important.)

What I refuse to try

I don't want to use the tucking tape or the specialty tucking tape adjacent products. I want something I can comfortably do while at my job and I can re-tuck with easily at work. Plus, I don't want to spend money on a disposable solution... I may try one of the swim safe ones like unlockables when I someday work up the courage to go swimming, but not for every day.

What Would My Ideal Be?

Cute Bikini Style Panties (in various colors) that have the support required to keep a tuck in place)... If you know where I can get these, please comment and let me know!

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I've never read anywhere that it's not safe. Do you have a source for that information?