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Edit: "getting closer to marriage" is about the whole journey starting from being completely single

Edit: if this shower thought is too confusing to be useful to you, then here is a quote that gives some of the same guidance, is simpler, less philosophical, but less broad: “Don’t waste your time chasing butterflies. Mend your garden, and the butterflies will come” - Mario Quintana

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[–] MrJameGumb 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

working on yourself, having your own life, being an interesting person, becoming more confident

These are all things you can do when you're single. Likewise there are plenty of married people with families who never accomplish these goals. Your need to connect everything to this arbitrary end goal of "starting a family" is what doesn't make any sense. You keep trying to make an objective concrete declaration about things that are entirely subjective and really have no specific "correct" answer.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

My idea might make more sense if you don't think of it as being connected to intentions. Also, it fails to describe what comes after marriage is reached.

With that being said, I am not totally certain of how true my idea is.