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How does it feel being in a relationship? (lemm.ee)

submitted 5 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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The fact I'll die alone without ever feeling the love of a woman besides my mother and without a child saddens me. So, as kind of a consolation, I want to know... How does it feel? Being in love and being together, the sex part, just living together and all that...

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

I don't shut you don't only because you finally answered the question. I still call bullshit on your first paragraph.

I will never love myself, does that means I earned my loneliness? Don't you realize how fucked up that sounds?

[–] enbyecho 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I will never love myself, does that means I earned my loneliness?

It means you deserve loneliness. Because you didn't take responsibility for doing the one MOST BASIC thing, which is to love yourself and believe in yourself. It doesn't have to be perfect or 100% (in fact better not!) but you do have to be able to see the good in yourself such that you can have confidence others will see it too.

Instead you blame others for it and feel sorry for yourself. You don't even seem to realize that it's this fact and your lack of responsibility toward yourself that is the reason others may find it hard to love you.

You and only you are responsible for that. Fix that and you fill not be lonely. Nobody wants to be around someone like that.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

No. I won't change shit.

[–] enbyecho 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

No. I won’t change shit.

I know. Because you are so insecure that you need to be lonely and unloved. You need to be the victim.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 5 months ago

Victim by ass.