Thank you for what you do/have done for them. I have been in that spot when I was younger.

I think I see where/how we "disagree". I talk generally about how attraction works, you specifically about individual persons and what specifics work for them. And I agree with what you say. I just want to add that fundamentally it is not about looks. Having an expensive looking sports car means you can ask random girls and many will just hop in. Do not forget that the average person is stupid and half the population is below average. Of course, looking good is the best way to get somewhere. Wearing a Rolex? Many girls like it, because it means $$$. Are you such a shallow person? I highly doubt it, you are on Lemmy, average persons do not even know about Lemmy. They do not know how to discuss things, many people straight up respond with their feelings. You are far away from average persons. But many are that shallow. Evolution needed them to be that way to be able to form societies. The same way most people blindly follow others, it does not work if everyone wants to lead. Maybe we will rise above this in the future.