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The Feedback Loop OF DOOOOOM (self.socialanxiety)
submitted 1 year ago by CannaVet to c/[email protected]
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I'm retired early at 35 and haven't worked since before I was 30 (injured veteran.) While limited, I had a fairly functional external life pre-rona but since then my ex I was with for a decade left at the end of the pandemic and I hadn't been around anyone else my people muscle has atrophied.

I'm bad with people because I'm not around people much, but I'm not around people much because I'm bad with people. I'm bad with people because I'm not around people muchbecauseI'mbadwithpeoplebecauseI'mnotaroundpeoplemuchbecauseI'mbadwithpeople^becauseI'mnotaroundpeoplemuchbecauseI'mbadwithpeople^

AHHHHHHHHHH

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Alcohol is one of the reasons I mostly stay out of social events. I don't feel comfortable around people, I feel even less comfortable around people that have been drinking. For myself I cannot see myself drinking or doing any kind of drugs at all.

I'm happy it helps some people, but I wish it was not needed of course ^^

[–] PerplexedPurplePixel 3 points 1 year ago

Same here! I shy away from people (especially men) because I have this thing that I think if I look at them wrong or in the eyes they’ll freak out on me. So I mostly look at the floor, and jam out to the music in my head while in public. Might look weird but I don’t care about that.

More to the point but adding onto this: I find that people who are out of their minds insufferable. Like, they got drunk or whatever and forget how to even fake being a nice person. A little drinky drink is fine … for some people. Also I might have an occasional drink but when I feel out of control of my thoughts and actions, freaks me out. So no drugs for me, but more power to you if that’s your thing. I’ll just be over here…away from you (no offense )