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Epilator works well, but it's kind of painful
I've had an epilator for a while, but with how epilating only cut the hair on my legs rather than plucking it I'm a little concerned about what it'll do to my chest. Any specific prep I should do?
It can take some practice. It works best if the hair is already short, like 2-3 days after shaving
I'll give it a shot. It'll hurt for sure but I suppose that comes with the territory. 😅
Pain is just dysphoria leaving the body!
I always do it right after bathing and drying my clawfoot tub. The hair should be no longer than 5mm or it will break off instead of pulling out from the follicle! The removed hair will also look different if it was broken instead of pulled out. Its like you can see the base part at the end. Good luck! :)
Doing it after a bath is genius and I have no idea how I didn't make that connection. Thank you!
When i epilate my legs i make sure to use body scrub too, that makes it less painful and helps with ingrown hairs (it also makes my legs feel soft and smooth :3)
Good luck! Beauty is pain ❤️
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Wait, is your epilator not pulling the hairs out?
I can only say that despite exfoliating and shaving a day or two earlier and also washing right before epilating it doesn't work on my upper thighs specifically. I've had good results on my lower legs and my arms, but my guess is that the hair is so thick it doesn't pull it out all the way. I'm using a decent Braun epilator too so tgat shouldn't be the issue.
Epilating can work both dry and wet, and wet could be easier. Maybe try wet (i.e. during shower) if you've tried dry
I've tried both and the only difference it made is how much it hurt as it pulled out some of the hair. It didn't seem to make a difference in result, ubfortunately. 😞
Then I don't know sorry 😭. I have some dark spots myself after epilating, but that's just the next hairs growing out, and/or ingrown.
I hope you find something that works for you ❤️
Awh thanks!❤️ I'm sure I will. ☺️