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Well, it's only going to get worse. Go to a shelter. There are resources to help with debt, sometimes government programs.
If you stay you're just digging the hole deeper. Every day you stay you are making it harder for yourself to leave. I know it is difficult.
You're in a very very shitty situation. But out of all the choices you have available to you, staying is worst one you could possibly pick.
Do you have any friends or family that you can ask for help?
In the end it is your choice to stay or go. But make sure it is an actual choice and not just submitting because you don't see a way out.
If you go to a shelter or the cops they might be able to at least explain to you what options you have. Perhaps there are numbers you could call for domestic abuse victims?
It is very important that you take action or things will only get worse. And I cannot imagine you want to struggle the rest of your life while he keeps draining you of all your money.
I don't have anyone save for my 86 year old aunt several cities away from where I work and I could not do that to her.
I've been in this situation 26 years. It can't be fixed.
Abuse chances the way you think. It can be fixed. I've seen it happen. But you will have to take action, abusers tend to never change.
If you cannot do that, if you keep believing you can't then you have given up. This is my last reply about this. I wish you the best and hope to hear from you in the future when you are in a better situation.
On the other hand, I am just a stranger on the Internet, so I have no real info about your situation. But I've seen hopeless situations like yours before, and I've seen them get resolved. So I hope you find a way. Because there always is.