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Maybe try communicating in a way that works for them? This isn't autism, it's narcissism.
I have tried communicating with my family their way for years. i try to talk to them about my needs. they still don't listen, nor work on communicating, except for my sister. I'm exausted from trying to communicate in the way they want with nothing changing. im tired every day i interact with them because they wont listen to my mental needs, just physical. i want our communication to be a compromise, but they won't try to even understand why this way of communicating works for me. i would be completely ok meeting them in the middle if they tried. I want to meet them in the middle for all of our sakes. but no. and my father IS a narcissist so maybe don't assume. he's straight up said that we communicate how he wants to communicate or he won't listen. I'm not the one who screams at people when don't talk the way I like (aka both my parents and grandma), I'm just some dude who was exausted and annoyed and went to lemmy to talk it out
Except absolutely nobody is going to return the favour. Everyone communicates in the way they know how and comes in a more natural way to them. You just expect OP to neither eat or have the cake.
No they don't. Autistic people maybe. Neurotypicals will modify their speech patterns to be better understood by the person they're talking to.
That's the most abelist answer in this thread so far.
"Maybe if your wheelchair is bothering them, try walking"
Analogy works, though.
"This place isn't wheelchair accessible but I need to go there"
"Can you walk? Do that."
If OP is low functioning enough that that's not a possibility, then other options can be explored. Or to return to the analogy, if he's totally paraplegic, then other options can be explored.