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Tap for contextSome woman on the internet said she would feel safer spending a night in the woods with a random bear rather than with a random man

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[–] berkeleyblue 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I’m happy to listen to their experience. I’m not happy to listen to useless generalizations that do not get us anywhere.

It’s a ridiculous statement to say all men are dangerous and just wait to abuse someone. If you can’t see that right now, I’m sorry.

Has nothing to do with BLM or CRT. I’m not American, no one here really cares about “race” whatever that even means in humans. People are people and should be treated as such.

Generalization do not help anyone moving forward. It gets you dismissed and ignored, which certainly doesn’t help you create the platform women need on some issues.

And to your stats: Please read the whole text. Not 1 in 5 women get assaulted by men a YEAR, 1 in 5 women have that happening to them within their lifetimes. That’s still masively to high, but it’s not what you seem to make it out to be here.

I, unlike you, would be happy to talk about this. Maybe I’d learn something. But you seem far more interested in repeating talking points and be condescending to me.

Unfortunate. But thank you for your time anyway.

[–] inb4_FoundTheVegan 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

It’s a ridiculous statement to say all men are dangerous and just wait to abuse someone. If you can’t see that right now, I’m sorry.

Never said that. Wouldn't say that. Don't think that.

You're just putting up a strawman to push over. Absolutely no where in this thread did someone say all men are dangerous, in fact I personally said the contrary many many many times.

That’s still masively to high, but it’s not what you seem to make it out to be here.

Again, I didn't say 1 in 5 per year, that's you inferring as another strawman. I knew what the stats were, and if we agree that 20% in their lifetime being the victim of SA is a lot, and that 60 something people attacked by bears comparitivly ISN'T many, then my original point stands. I intentionally did not link to any stats about per year because that number true number is unknown and likely wildly under outed as most events are not reported.

Maybe I’d learn something. But you seem far more interested in repeating talking points and be condescending to me.

This is an ironic thing to complain of when you condescendly assume I don't know what my own links are about, but okay. You act like you're trying to learn and have a reasonable discussion but all you've done is dismiss and make bad faith assumptions while dancing around the actual point, that way more women are harmed by men than bears.

Not all men do this, but it's immposible to tell the ones who do from the ones who don't. There is good reason why women are wary of unknown men, we have a learned experience that dropping your guard can quickly lead to absolutely horrible outcomes. As I said before, 1 in 5 women have such experince.

So compare this to a bear existing in the woods. Bears already do that, they generally mind their own business and only in rare cases attack humans. Sure there are probally SOME ultra aggressive bears out there, just like ultra aggressive men, but as a population bears are not actively seeking out women to harm. However there IS unknown invisible amount of men who are doing exactly that. Finding women who are alone and vulnerable. The question isn't "who could do more damage to a woman, a bear or a man?" it's who would you rather risk being alone with?

Most women pick the bear because statistically, going to lead to better outcomes. If I come across the bear will likely keep fishing/gathering, the ways to run hide or scare it off are obviouse. But coming across a man in the woods is flat out scary, maybe they will help, but if they are a bad person, then my ability to hide, run or escape is VASTLY diminished against someone who is both as intelligent as I, but also probally much faster and stronger.

Not every man would chase us down, but 20% of women have encountered men who WILL take opportunities when presented with them. Being alone in the woods away from defenses, civilization or any amount of assistance? I'll be completely at his mercy It's just not comperable situation against a bear.

So if your interested in potentially learning something about a different perspective, than you need to actually do that instead of just going to the knee jerk dissimal "not all men are violent" which was never said in the first place.