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Also, as a man, when I am mostly ignored because people are too eager to speak rather than listen, my first assumption is that those people simply suck at meetings. I have the privilege of knowing that it is not discrimination.

But it might as well be. I was discriminated/bullied for quite some time after I joined a company. People assumed I knew nothing and disregarded almost anything I said, and generally didn't even ask me. I was one of the two people in a department. Those people did not suck at meetings/conversations, it was an active discrimination based on their preconceptions. I don't think gender is by far the only discrimination that can happen within the workplace. But yeah, I definitely agree that I will most likely not being discriminated as a man, in the sense that sexist discrimination in tech happens almost exclusively to women.

There is a lot of competition of ideas going on in tech, very little positive feedback, and a lot of talking over people, because this is just how a lot of men are unfortunately. I fully understand why people who are more likely to be prejudiced against would perceive all sort of false signals in there.

I agree. I - like many others - do my best to change the culture overall, to ensure that people who get promotions have fill leading positions are not those kind of people who will reinforce all of this. Also, I did not work in the US startup environment (and I consider myself lucky), which means I might also be missing real experiences on places much worse than the ones I have been in (the loner-tech-bro-genius hacking culture of the Silicon valley is something I greatly despise).

Sexism isn’t sexism because it only happens to women.

I mean, if a behavior is not related to being discriminated based on gender, it's not sexism. It can be mobbing, it can be simply a toxic competitive environment, but that doesn't make it sexism, that is my point. "IF" being the keyword.

Implicit bias is a thing

I totally agree, and this is why I do think that for someone shutting down a woman, because implicitly there is the though "this is a woman and therefore doesn't know what she is talking about", can be sexist, but that behavior is not inherently sexist. There are multiple (bad) reasons why people might do that. People might assume I am not competent, too young/too old to know better, too recent in the company, I went to the wrong university, and many other reason. This is not inherently linked to gender discrimination, that is my point. It can be ageism, hazing (hopefully the translation is accurate), classism or even racism, if not just the behavior of people who just want to gain advantages at expense of others (which is not a form of discrimination per se). All these exist in the workplace, and that's why I was challenging your conclusion that this is sexism by definition. Now if in your experience you think sexism was the root cause, sure, whatever. But if we want to move the conversation to a more generic "tech" environment, I think it's worth to expand the analysis.

Thanks for writing an entire essay trying to disprove my experiences though.

Well, with this I guess I understand you are in bad faith. I did not try to disprove your experiences (in fact, I explicitly wrote that for one specific instance), I challenged some of the arguments you made. Trying to imply that I tried to disprove your experiences is extremely dishonest.

Why is it so hard to just listen to women?

Are we not allowed to have different opinion? Do I exist in the workplace as well? Also, expressions such as "And men are just blessed with raises and promotions they didn’t even ask for" are hard to relate for me and for any other working class man who struggle in the workplace I know. I understand you were trying to get your point across, but if that's your perspective, then we simply live in two different worlds (which is totally possible, given that we probably live in very different places and companies).

I listened (well...read), and I questioned some of your conclusions. If this for you means "not listening to women", then I suppose we have different perspectives.

I agree with what you said for the most part, except the fact that I wouldn't define sexism in the majority of cases having people "stealing" your ideas, nor shooting down ideas.

In the first case it seems a common practice in competitive environments, where workers have no incentive at all to cooperate and all the incentive to screw each other to look better and chase promotions. I think people who do that regularly do that with everyone. Appropriating ideas and work of others is how middle managers in many cases got there and how they climb the ladder, even though everyone knows what they are worth.

The second is an extremely common occurrence in tech, ideas are shot down all the time. I have seen it occurring countless of times, I don't think is a sexist practice inherently, although still something extremely annoying within tech. It is sexism when ideas are shot down "because a woman is saying it", though.

My final remark is about the part about "males getting raises without even asking" (paraphrasing). Now, this may have been true in your context, I have no way to dispute it. However, I just want to reinforce that the narrative of "males being somewhat on the same side" disregarding the conflict within workers and owners (I.e. those who get the raises and those who give them) seems to be completely fabricated (based on my experience) and also extremely damaging to workers solidarity. The narrative that somehow gender prevails over class as a factor of unification is very dangerous and plays right in the hand of those who benefit from gender conflict as an obstacle for class unity.

Then you will get all the top tournaments with maybe a few women, none of them will likely win (based on current ranking), which will cause possibly even less women to try chess and reinforce the vicious circle (less win also equals less money, less sponsors). Basically, after that you will get protests as well.

Not really, and I would deserve issues, as I usually randomly update apps from whatever store I happen to open.

Same phone, same OS. For me NFC works fine, I routinely use it for yubikeys.I also use Aurora store, in addition to f-droid and the app lounge.

Orwell wrote a critique of modern society, soviet Stalinist society in particular, in animal farm. It's not an anthropology book, it's political satire that came from a socialist (!). I am not sure your induction that it applies to all humans under every circumstance was therefore intended by the author (lord of the flies might be a much better example in this case).

Graeber is actually far for boring, and as an anthropologist his writing tend to be a bit more general.

Either way, of course I've read Animal Farm.

tl;dr is that the War in Afghanistan was justified?

I think that at least some of it is a knee-jerk reaction to the narrative that is pushed. There is no analysis, no debate, at the moment NATO is sold like some kind of NGO, countries that until yesterday were bombing others with zero concerns today are standing in (justified) horrors for the Russian war crimes, like if we discovered war in 2022. For some, this narrative is simply unacceptable, even if it ends up in the right place (i.e., supporting Ukraine in defending itself from an imperialist nation). The problem comes with the NAFO-fellows and the likes, where immediately as soon as you say anything to bring up these very contradictions, you are a genocide denier/enabler/supporter.

I am sure that for others is a matter of countering the US, or the mainstream media or whatever, though.

human nature

Every time I read someone expressing this view, I feel like encouraging to read something from Graeber, for example "Debt". Not for the discussion on debt itself, but mostly for the different ways societies were organized over millennia.

They support catch-all addresses. So essentially any email @your.TLD will work. I use this and it works perfectly. Nowadays I also use the included simplelogin address if I don't want to disclose even my domain.

I confirm what the other comment said, with microg it works fine. I am using /e/OS and I regularly use yubikeys with Firefox, bitwarden and the yubico app.