Thanks for saying that. I've had tons of gay friends, I worked somewhere where I was in the minority being a cis staright male, and even my dearest highschool crush came out to me first. This feels off, and I think you articulated it well.
It's wild that people do this. I'm sorry it happened to you but it's good to know I'm not alone in the experience
Shit yeah that's what I'm going to do. I've been getting into rock climbing for the last year. Where I live now its 8-10 hours to get to rocks. In the new place it's about 12 minutes. There's so much to do, I just always thought we would be doing it together.
I acknowledge the hole, I will try to fill it with rocks and positivity. In time.
It's good to know that I'm not the only one going through a similar situation, so thank you
It's interesting that you say the bit about being selfish and idealization. It's been really hard to imagine this as selfishness. But that is because in my conception of this person is so much selflessness. She never gave me a reason to think otherwise. But clearly this is an idealization.
Your 3rd perspective would be my preference, had we talked like adults and she didnt just go scorched earth on the relationship. I need to ackowledge that selfishness and the fact that it has nothing to do with me.
It does feel like she died. And I actually just heard about this phenomenon where people who are unable to attend the funerals of loved ones have a hard time believing that they're gone. Looking at the corpse gives you closure. So I think I may talk with her just to get that closure, but I need to aknowledge that I'm looking at the corpse of what we had. Thanks
I appreciate your response. It's nice to hear about a similar experience that resulted in normalcy. I do have an aquaintance that is a professional counselor, and they have been kind enough to let me vent and give me some really great advice and encouragement. I will be seeking professional help once I get settled too.
The couples therapy is an interesting prospect. Even though we aren't a couple anymore I do think it would bring closure. Even if she wasn't willing to do it, that would bring some closure in itself because it means she simply didn't value our relationship as much as she claims.
My mom also said this lol
Yeah my mom said the same thing
Womp womp
That sucks
If only there were some standard that companies could follow for the advanced configuration of power interfaces.
This is cool, but where does the carbon monoxide go?
Linux has sleep tho
it still mounts and at first glance seems to be working
What makes you say that?
Show us the output of things like lsblk, mount and cat /etc/fstab to give us a fuller picture
My opinion is that stragners actually give some of the best advice. Especially here on lemmy is a different breed.
That being said I wasn't clear. Say she had come to me in a mature way, maybe a month ago at the latest. And she articulated her feelings, fears, desires, etc. I could have found a place of understanding for her.
Now I need to see the corpse. The corpse is dead. It's not coming back, if it did it would be an abomination lol