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"Speech code" lol. Calm down, Mary.

Here's something you may not know: When you are gay, you have to come out constantly. That's why famous people "announce" that they are gay. And let me assure you, gay people do not want to be the constant subject of public debate. We are the constant subject of public debate because people hate us and want us to die. And because people who maybe don't hate us or want us to die are really obsessed with making sure that those people have platforms on social media and other mainstream media platforms. So, if it's really wearing you down to hear about all these different kinds of people, maybe go yell at some bigots and the people who platform them?

"Business people" don't contribute anything to society and should be thrown into a dumpster.

Trans people actually need to use the bathroom sometimes.

Really wish we could stop with the "openly gay". If you know somebody is gay, then they are out. If they aren't out, you shouldn't call them gay - with an exception for anti-gay bigots who should be called "probably gay bigot". It's minor thing, but I feel like this terminology fuels the right wing propaganda that gay people could just not exist if we weren't so stubborn.

Also, if employers know that you could quit tomorrow and have housing, food, and health care while you look for another job, they would be incentivized to make it not so shitty to work there.

What escapes dickwads like derphurr is that the law is not the same as justice. People aren't arguing that the law doesn't require the disclosure. They are arguing that this case is different because it's a person who transitioned and that being required to out oneself as trans in order to run for office is a very different requirement than being forced to reveal your old name. The law is not just, and of course it was written without any consideration of trans people - much like the 2nd amendment was written without the remotest concept of what a single person can do to an elementary school with an AR-15. It's perfectly possible to argue that the law should be enforced until it is changed while acknowledging that it's unfair. But that would require empathy. And not being an asshole.

It's sounds like we're fundamentally in agreement, but I don't even see the big deal if every once in a while there is one trans girl playing in a competitive youth league. Sure you could argue that there's only so many spots on the team, so maybe some cis girl who would have made it loses out. But if you're the 20th best player and you get cut because there's one trans girl? I mean, you're the 20th best player, you're probably not going to be at the top of the recruiters list. I just feel like this time is so fraught for trans people. There are so many powerful forces literally trying to destroy them, I really don't think we need to worry about hypothetical potential future slippery slopes in kids athletics. Once trans people feel safe, and ideologues aren't using sports as a wedge issue to promote anti-trans panic, I'm sure we can come up with equitable solutions for these edge cases.

In competitive youth swimming, which I did as a child, the age groups are like 11-12, 13-14, 15-16. So, it was possible for someone who was 12 a week ago to swim against someone who turns 15 next week - a HUGE difference in terms of physical development. And if your birthday happens to fall in the weeks before the big championship meet every year, you are always at the bottom or middle of your age bracket for your entire childhood, never at the top. But the specifics don't even matter. Age groups and grade classifications are to try to make things a little more fair so that little kids aren't swimming against basically adults. But it's not in any way perfectly fair. And also, it doesn't matter! Let kids play sports and get the benefits of that activity. Your kid's team winning - or losing - some sports game in 10th grade doesn't matter. Keeping this girl from playing volleyball isn't fixing any problem. In Utah they made a ban and there were literally 4 trans athletes in the entire state. It's culture war bullshit. And people who start quoting bone density studies or whatever are either falling for it or willingly participating in it.

What is the distribution of athletic performance in volleyball between 14 year olds and an 18 year olds? In high school volleyball, it's perfectly possible for a team made of all 18 year olds who are 6 feet tall to play a team that is all 14 year olds that are 5 feet tall. The idea that without the participation of trans girls, high school volleyball is completely equitable is ridiculous. High school sports are for fun, learning teamwork and discipline, and fitness. Who wins a high school volleyball game is not important. Certainly it's not more important than the health and safety of trans girls - and non-gender-conforming cis girls who have been and will continued to be tortured by laws like this.

I am a giant music nerd and it is really weird how often I am completely wrong about the year that bands/albums came out. It's pretty much just early 80s vs late 80s for me though.

Ok, so a million years ago me and a friend of mine were in Vegas and checked out Quark's Bar at the Star Trek Experience at the Las Vegas Hilton. And it was great! I drank a dry-ice-powered "warp core" drink. A guy in a Klingon costume messed with me in a cringey but completely perfect "interactive theater" bit. The video screens all had Star Trek visuals playing. Super fun.

Anyway, a couple of years later we thought "Hey, let's go back to Vegas and we'll visit Quarks Bar again!" But we were big enough nerds that we didn't realize when we booked it that it was superbowl weekend. So, all the pro sports gambler types were in town. The "free drinks as long as you are gambling" policy in the casino seemed to be suspended - all the servers ignored us. We had high hopes of escaping to the nerd refuge of Quark's, but when we got there they had football on all of the screens, and a table of "Da Bears" style football dudes started fucking with us for, I don't know, not being manly enough or something. It sucked, but it's kind of funny in retrospect.