men are not an unified front that plans things behind womens backs, similarly, some random woman you see on the street is not conspiring against you specifically
you should have a social codes for
- people your romantically interested in
- family
- everyone else
thats marginally less weird
monogamy and poligamy are both social contracts all participants must agree on, both are morally neutral
that dominance/submission thing i think its called power play, you can read about it if you want to, but its not a thing a majority of people will agree with you about it being necesary for relationships
ask for good health, stable passive income and the ability to see the consequence of my choices