Oh wow, even a half dozen times sounda like it would be unnerving. Glad that it stopped happening though!
Im glad that it was ultimately a fun time even despite the blood!
Yeah I agree that the first time was probably the worst that its been
My first time was in college, with the woman who is now my wife! The first time we fooled around was shortly after we met, we were back in my apartment and she offered me a blowjob which I happily accepted. While it felt really good at first, I started feeling some pain after a few minutes. Turns out that, through a combination of my foreskin not being able to fully stretch around my head at the time, and it being her first time around a penis with a foreskin, mine had torn just a little bit. While it was nothing severe medically, it was definitely enough to keep me from cumming. I offered to go down on her, but that was the end of that hookup.
Our first time having PiV sex was about a month later, my roommates and I put on a little thanksgiving dinner that I had invited her to. We were planning on going to a show on campus after dinner, and so I walked with her back to her apartment for her to grab something before we went to the show. We got to her room, and she just looked at me and said "want to have sex?". Of course the answer was a resounding yes. It was definitely a little awkward to figure out positioning but we settled into missionary, and I just told her I'll take it slow and she could tell me if she wanted a change in speed or anything. After a few minutes she said that it was getting uncomfortable so we called it there with neither of us finishing, but both of us excited to keep practicing at a later time.
I like these ideas alot. I think LemmyNSFW could use more discussion space to talk about sex, kinks, and generally taboo topics. Like you said BDSM often becomes the catch all category for many kinks and I dont think there is currently enough activity in LemmyNSFW to warrant splitting the community, provided the space remains inclusive for all
Idk if it's because I hit puberty when scene girls were a thing, but the punk/alt style is so fucking hot. Tattoos, piercings, dyed hair, wallet chains, etc 😍😍 Like Hayley Williams checks every single box I have
Thanks for the tip!
Yeah we'll definitely be sure to have something between us and the ground. Dont need any twigs or bugs disrupting anything!
And yeah its entirely her decision what gets posted. Personally, I have no concerns about people that I know finding the photos. Im an adult in a consentual sexual relationship, I wont go forcing it on anyone but if someone that knows me is browsing porn and sees it, I dont think theres anything to be embarrassed about. But thats my personal take on things and I know she is not as comfortable with that as I am. So while I encourage her and show her how positive these spaces can be, ultimately its not my call. Im definitely also biased but I think she would do pretty well on here
My wife and I have talked about branching out and being more adventurous in our sex lives this year. A top item on my list is doing it out in the woods while backpacking or camping, which should be doable once the weather gets nicer.
Another fantasy that is probably more of a longshot is having sex in a group setting. My wife and I were both eachothers firsts and while Im not necessarily looking to do a swap thing, I think it would be a lot of fun to fuck her while surrounded by other horny naked people doing their own thing. We've talked about doing something like that a few times and each time she seems a little cooler to the idea so that one might just stay a fantasy.
Finally I'd love to incorporate her more into the photos that I share. We have a nice collection of photos and videos of the two of us but she waffles about whether she is comfortable with the ones shes in being posted. I'm hoping I can convice her to test the waters but only if shes 100% comfortable.
I thought I had posted some pictures with the head showing but maybe not, I definitely have some that I will post!
Thats a good point, its definitely a beneficial message to spread to individuals who might be grappling with their sex drive, but it really doesn't address the issues that arise with mismatched libidos in a relationship.
Personally what I've found helpful as someone with a higher libido than my wife is that I let her be the initiator for anytime we will have sex together, otherwise I'll masturbate. It took a bit of a shift in my thinking as for most of my sexually active life masturbation had been 1. Find porn, 2. jerk off until I cum, 3. continue on with my day, however I've found that its much more meaningful to treat it more like when I have sex with a partner. By focusing more on me, and what feels good to me, and not just trying to get through it to the orgasm has made it a much better way for me to bridge the times between having sex with my wife. This has lead to me feeling better fulfilled, and she doesnt feel pressured to have sex when she doesnt want to since I'm not going crazy between the times we fuck. Obviously this may not work for everyone but I've certainly found that its helped both of us.